The scenario is dichotomous and severally so.
Me, regarding the mancunians (Ted and his friends) I met (encountered) at national peer support day. [Now here supposing] post event to be clear, engaging with them but me, consciously of my withdrawal from the caveats held to in their world of conversing ‘man 2 man’.
These caveats: arguably, that ‘black lads’ situated here ‘will’ never have in-hand (unless on the pitch with their PE teacher) yet allegedly in disagreements, knife each other over with alarmingly increasing frequency. I don’t wanna believe its true..!
For me, in this hypothetical meet up (‘like lads can’) with the mancunians, the scale of the tension in play would be proportionate to the determination (predisposed intention) of the parties on both sides. Historically, they never compromise themselves, the manner posed is always for the other to be subject to what has been established as core of the matter (lads though will be hoping its ok, of course). The less obvious thing here is that this is expeditious, a trusted way to cut through and gratify, get it done, the common mans’ brotherly traditional ‘how to’.
Men though are, in truth mostly quite unique, and the established custom indicated in the preceding seems to have forgotten this. The church too, as was my experience of its ultimate function seems oblivious.
It is, it seems to me once again the common , a less refined trait that has caused this to be so.
Disclaimer: These points above beware, are revelatory! Not to be regarded merely as they might appear to be, as 'simple sense'.
Consider me, consider the positions. Consider Paul Mccartney’s, ‘Let it be’. And Desiderata!
My childhood memories of the North [G.O.T. reference not intended but apt] in light of my thoughts to connect {with peers in the North] back to my ‘class’ [on me, inflected deeply] now pose a question of worth: I certainly have the keys to access and approach this as an exploit beyond the presently hypothetical situation. Consider.
The national Peer Support Day here on 27 October 2018 produced by Positively UK had a theme of Living Well with HIV on medication: I will say this, that the bottom line is; personally meaningful existence as an outcome.
It would begin with follow up WhatsApp greetings and speculative in-person-contact correspondence. But, men, and the culture beyond London presents a whole other notion of ROI!*
With me now please, for the sake of less clutter as to what my hopes are in this, put to one side Advocacy Life Branding as it stands termed on a linked first effort google site. A’hem!
I hope it goes to plan.
I’m here for comment but I (read ‘we all’) do not promise to satisfy. I am regardless, FYI [as due for my own general recovery] [re]gaining a contemporary administrative sense, more formally based inclinations and abilities.
BTW in other news
Advocacy Life Branding 